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Self-portrait. Natural light. No make-up. Colour correction in post.
I quite like it, at the same time I'm quite self-conscious about it. I believe it's the most intimate self-portrait I've ever posted online. On to new and brave things! :giggle:
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pnn32 Featured By Owner Jun 9, 2016  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Wonderful reflection in eyes.. looks ethereal a bit :)
dareme Featured By Owner Jun 9, 2016
Ah, thank you very much! The reflection is one of my favourite aspects aswell. :hug:
Voleuro Featured By Owner May 5, 2016  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Beeindruckendes Bild. Ich finde du hast den Bildausschnitt und die Pose sehr gut gewählt. Das Bild wirkt sehr intim, was wohl gut zum Titel passt. Mach weiter so! :3
dareme Featured By Owner May 19, 2016
Danke dir! Das ist wunderbar zu hören. :heart:
Voleuro Featured By Owner May 22, 2016  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Bitteschön! :3
barninga Featured By Owner Apr 22, 2016  Hobbyist Photographer
very intimate, thus very brave. kudos.
it looks somehow like a painting. And not a painting whatever.
No less than Johannes Vermeer's "Girl with a pearl earring".
You don't wear pearl earrings here, you are naked, your hair is not covered, you are waaaaaaaaaaaaay more sensual, but...
maybe the pose.
maybe your eyes. yes, maybe your eyes, though they have a light that no painting could render.
Something in your expression, maybe.
well, you said you want to be yourself. is this an anticipation? ;)
dareme Featured By Owner Apr 24, 2016
Thank you! And yes, it's something like a... close-your-eyes-and-take-the-leap sort of thing. I like to keep my thoughts and feelings all in my head, where they're safe and there's no risk of them going off causing rampage (any thoughts and feelings that aren't strictly safe, that is). Here I just bypassed (most) those safety filters and went a little wild. By my standards, anyway. :D

Your bringing up "Girl with a Pearl Earring" is really interesting. When I first read the mention, I was confused; at second thought, I thought I sort of knew what you meant; and when I went and did a little more in-depth comparison I found more formal likenesses than I would have thought. And those were in elements that I particularily like about my photography. They were not, however, created purposefully. I find that quite interesting.

As always, your input and thoughts mean a lot to me. Thank you. :rose:
barninga Featured By Owner May 3, 2016  Hobbyist Photographer
we all should close our eyes and take a leap sometimes. our safety net is...  safe place, but it can be limited, and limiting. what did you discover about yourself you didn't know before this leap?
dareme Featured By Owner May 8, 2016
Most importantly, posting something this personal online is out of my comfort zone, which has made me realize just how careful I am most of the time. Someone said that to me a while ago, and I was flabberghasted. Careful, me? I like adventure. I am not afraid to skydive out of a plane. How exactly is "careful" a word that describes me?!
But it's true. All the risks I take are carefully screened first. Can I risk it? Is it reasonably safe? Can this decision come back to bite me in the ass later? Some of that is just sane risk assessment. But quite a large part is fear. I don't want to make a mistake, so I overthink. I am careful, and I let chances go by unused because I'm busy hesitating.

Posting this brought this issue to light for me, making me realize this behaviour, which is easy to avoid while I'm in here being safe.
barninga Featured By Owner May 19, 2016  Hobbyist Photographer
maybe it's not just a matter of screening risks. being an enthusiast of possibly risky activities is very different from easily releasing our inner world to the outside. this kind of risk is very very difficult to evaluate, first because we don't know how people could react -because people do react- and secondly because we don't know how we ourselves will react. you can calculate the direction and speed of the wind, the height of the cliff, the probability that a storm suddenly come, and evaluate the result again a safety threshold you established before, maybe after theoretical calculations. but what happens when the wind and the storms blow inside yourself? it's a completely different matter.
however you've got an important finding about your inner self, and this will help you in the future.
all that said, what does not kill us, makes us stronger. now you at least know that you can take that kind of leap and stay in the safe.
dareme Featured By Owner May 22, 2016
You're very right about the different nature of risks, inside and out. It's possible to be quite brave about risky endeavors and very timid when it comes to sharing ones True Self. (But in both cases you'll never know the outcome unless you give it a try.)
I think when it comes to fears about our inner world, most of us would benefit from being braver about embracing it. Fear of rejection and failure and heart-ache make us prisoners in our own head and heart, and we're our own jailors, spending all our energy fitting in our bottling up our eccentricies rathern than enriching the world with our uniqueness.
barninga Featured By Owner May 26, 2016  Hobbyist Photographer
where is the "like" button? :D
dareme Featured By Owner Jul 11, 2016
I've been looking for that a bunch of times aswell :D
dynax700si Featured By Owner Apr 5, 2016  Professional Photographer
It takes tremendous courage to show your vulnerability... well done! Great portrait :)
dareme Featured By Owner Apr 24, 2016
Yes, for some reason it seems to! I can verify that for myself and from what others tell me, I'm not alone in that feeling. :D
Thank you! :hug:
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